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“Why Chasing a Man Will Not Get You Cherished As a Woman”

Control, control, control—that is why we chase a man. We don't know how to attract the love we want and so we have to find ways to force it, control it, make it happen, and force a man to like us, commit to us and be with us.

We stalk him on social media.

Text him just to say hi.

We put on an image, we try to be sweet, nice and do things for him.

We aggressively try to be nice if you know what I mean—trying hard to impress him, convince him and win him over.

All of those are the exact opposite of feminine energy whose foundation is emotional freedom. You aren't free—therefore he pushes away from the prison you are in of control.

And we control because we are disconnected from our Feminine power and because inside we allow fear and desperation to be the only means we USE to get love. It's unattractive—and no woman in her masculine energy is going to attract the sort of masculine man she wants.

That's when men pull away, ghost us, make convenient excuses like saying "he really wants to see you but he just had a family emergency or he has been super busy lately." Or maybe he does see you for coffee, or invites you to hang, or may even till take you to dinner one last time… but its clear he's no longer excited or making an effort and you somehow feel you've been put in the booty call or friend zone.

Masculine men are not attracted to Masculine energy in women. Men don't like to be controlled, chased, pursued...

How attracted would you be to a guy who takes 2 and a half hours to do his hair, nails and makeup before seeing you, who expects you to send him flowers and chocolates, and wants you to make all the plans and be the man?

No problem there with anyone doing it, I am saying that if you are the Feminine energy—you will be attracted to masculine energy (and this goes beyond gender).

Feminine energy, the real feminine energy, not the outer fake feminine energy a lot of people are teaching nowadays, triggers intense attraction in men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Becoming Irresistible Women Isn't About Getting it "right" or Being Perfect...

It is about being aware of the quality of the love we truly offer, truly being open to seeing how it is we show up with men, day to day… and if we give real high quality love, vs low quality, love.

Low quality love tends to use men, instead of truly love them. When we hide behind our fears and baggage, when we leave stuff unresolved, when we communicate aggressively or play games—we are playing at love, we are playing at relationships—and not truly engaging from vulnerability, intimacy and love. Love is humble, love is self-loving, love SEES the other human being… sees the soul. Love sees our own soul as well—sees when a man is just not capable of giving us what we desire, and respects that and moves on.

Soulmates see each other's souls.

Remember that the goal isn't a "relationship", the goal is 2 souls really knowing each other and choosing each other and creating a life that is much better together, than alone.

Big difference.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Being parented well—is being prepared well for life and in an ideal world we all would have been raised not just in a protective environment, but in one where our emotional world was nurtured and we came out of it whole inside—as well as one where we were prepared…

To be parented is to be prepared for life—to have been taught about men, relationships, femininity… instead of being thrown to life left to figure it out on our own (leading to so much loss, grief and heartbreak.)

Prepared to know how to navigate life...

To navigate finances

To navigate friendships

to navigate love, attraction, femininity and men.

To know when to set boundaries and when to move on, to know when to protect ourselves and when to avoid painful losses that happened because we made mistakes...

However acting imperfectly is part of being a growing soul. Making mistakes and holding opposites within you—both a wounded little girl and a spirit and being of great light… coexisting in either an internal world of self shame or in a world inside that every day is gaining ground in becoming more loving to herself.

Forgives. Forgiveness. Forgiveness...

→ Forgiving yourself for not having known better. Or for having known better and still having done it anyway because you needed for so much inside or you felt out of control or your emotions took control.

And empowerment, empowerment, empowerment—(learning now what you need to do to figure this out so you can have your dream of love and a fulfilling life.)

And a recommitment to Parent yourself which means to empower yourself, to mentor yourself, to get the support you need, to have your back and to keep learning—while always making room for all of the messy, imperfect mistakes you are still going to make.

I want you to share with us 3 things you forgive yourself for (or want to)... mistakes you made where you were far from perfect.

Comment below—what do you (hand over your heart) forgive yourself for? Name 3 things that caused losses for your life, that you mourn, grieve, regret.

You are always loved,

- Gio

I AM A GROWING SOUL

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Your Degree of Difficulty as a Woman

So often in life when we have feelings for a man who has shown us not to have the same feelings for us—and we "stay" there (maybe for years)... The real problem here is not unrequited love, it is powerlessness.

We don't believe we have options, we are wanted, truly desired and powerful enough to create what we want in life—so we bank all of our worth and happiness on another human being—and this is what is known as neediness.

We live year after year, in a state of internal powerlessness otherwise knowns as the Low Value Woman.

Women who feel internally powerless (without true worth) have to play a lot of games to create what I call "false tension"

This game playing distracts from the fact that after a while she won't be able to hide her low sense of self worth—it will come out in reactivity, drama, controlling and obsessive "crushing" on the man.

So women get really hung up on "dating rules" should I say this? or not say that?" When the truth is—if they had powerful self-value—sure dating guidelines and boundaries would be helpful, but not determinant.

All the qualities a man wants would be there, instinctually coming out from her inner radiance, feminine power and authenticity.

This is when you play by all of the dating rules and then you see quality man after quality men crazy and head over heels for a woman who seems to break all of the rules...

A high Value woman:

She wouldn't walk on eggshells, she would fearlessly express herself.

She wouldn't keep being attracted to a man who isn't attracted to her.

She wouldn't be waiting for his approval or validation—she is giving it to herself.

She would be willing to walk away because she knows she is desirable to many other men.

And being desirable to many other men is SOMETHING YOU CULTIVATE in your life, and no it isn't easy to do on your own... (and in my upcoming institute I will show you exactly how, step by step.) So a woman who shows up High Value—well you will see a man throw out the rule book for this woman.... So all of the energy that you are putting on obsessing about this guy—watching what you say or don’t say, all of the hours spent thinking about him You need to now focus on building powerful self value, desirability and "degree of difficulty." Men feel your energy—you can't hide. A woman who is self abandoning won't hide for long behind game playing—a man will pick up on it and move on.You have to do the work you know you need to do. This is what I teach my clients and who embody this and see outrageous results in their love lives and this is what I want to teach you. Join us early next year for the Launch of my Embodied Feminine Woman Institute, where a group of women will boldly walk next to you as you transform into the High Value Woman you know you are.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Your degree of difficulty as a woman = I am a woman with options, therefore I do not latch on to a guy hopelessly in love before he has proven to be the right man for me. This means I lean back in my worth and keep receiving from men until the right man wins me over.

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Photo Credit: toneitup.com