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The Kingdom of Heaven is Here And Not Yet

Sometimes I myself need to hear the words that come through me because I know there is a place inside of me where these words come from that is Divine, infinite and eternal. That place is in every human being.

And every human being is both that place—Divine, infinite and eternal...and the very human parts catching up to that, growing into that, being nourished into growth and freedom by that—the imperfect parts we want to run away from—which we need to run to.

The holding of opposites— we can be Divine powerful leaders and oh so human, not only can we be, we are. And the more loving relationship we have with every part within ourselves, the more compassionate we become, the more patient.

I love the stories that talk about the kingdom of God being here in our midst and within us and yet not fully here yet, as something that is coming.

And the parts of humanity we would run away from... the inner darker and more wounded parts of us we need to sit down with,, understand and allow to heal.

Sometimes you need to invite every part of you to a riotous dinner, have a sit down and talk, break bread, drink wine and chill. Listen to what every part of you has to say, they all have a story to tell, a reason for being, a specific place they are at in their growth and development.

You are the ultimate parent that listens to each part within you (your wounded child, your ego, your dysfunctional parts, your genius, all of them) … and holds space, love, direction, leadership and eternal compassion. That and only that way, through divine compassion and intimacy with yourself, does every part of you grow up to match the divine part of who you are.

Through love we heal, grow up into wholeness and develop into our divine potential.


You are always loved,

- Gio

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“Why Chasing a Man Will Not Get You Cherished As a Woman”

Control, control, control—that is why we chase a man. We don't know how to attract the love we want and so we have to find ways to force it, control it, make it happen, and force a man to like us, commit to us and be with us.

We stalk him on social media.

Text him just to say hi.

We put on an image, we try to be sweet, nice and do things for him.

We aggressively try to be nice if you know what I mean—trying hard to impress him, convince him and win him over.

All of those are the exact opposite of feminine energy whose foundation is emotional freedom. You aren't free—therefore he pushes away from the prison you are in of control.

And we control because we are disconnected from our Feminine power and because inside we allow fear and desperation to be the only means we USE to get love. It's unattractive—and no woman in her masculine energy is going to attract the sort of masculine man she wants.

That's when men pull away, ghost us, make convenient excuses like saying "he really wants to see you but he just had a family emergency or he has been super busy lately." Or maybe he does see you for coffee, or invites you to hang, or may even till take you to dinner one last time… but its clear he's no longer excited or making an effort and you somehow feel you've been put in the booty call or friend zone.

Masculine men are not attracted to Masculine energy in women. Men don't like to be controlled, chased, pursued...

How attracted would you be to a guy who takes 2 and a half hours to do his hair, nails and makeup before seeing you, who expects you to send him flowers and chocolates, and wants you to make all the plans and be the man?

No problem there with anyone doing it, I am saying that if you are the Feminine energy—you will be attracted to masculine energy (and this goes beyond gender).

Feminine energy, the real feminine energy, not the outer fake feminine energy a lot of people are teaching nowadays, triggers intense attraction in men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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And anything that feels forced to you as a woman, WILL feel forced to a man around you... who (especially if he is quality man) will see right through it. He'll feel he can't be himself, he can't let loose, he doesn't feel emotionally safe.

Projecting an image means we are driving, we are in doing mode, in forcing mode, we have an agenda, it is controlling… which means it is masculine energied in nature and origin.

Feminine energy is all about the polar opposite, the freedom a soul feels when it is truly at home and secure and free in itself,  not projecting an image, it is BEING ITSELF in freedom, self-acceptance and love.

A feminine woman (or a woman in touch with her feminine core and energy) knows how to  set herself free from any image and goes into all parts of her, including her shadow and darker aspects. She isn't shocked at these aspects of herself, some of which are wounded and hurting, some of which are dark and unpretty, rather she creates intimacy with them, gets to know them, accepts them as a part of her and leads them not to perfection, but to wholeness...powerful wholeness.

She develops healthy ways of relating, accepting and understanding all these parts of her—and then, as it always happens...

She is with a man who can't believe how comfortable she is with herself—and how just by being around her, his soul is emerging, his soul is coming up to be seen by him in the power of a woman in her High Value relationship to her own self, and in her Feminine.

Then he begins to open up—he begins to feel in his being that all parts of himself will be accepted and known here… and by accepted I don't mean enabled, I mean he won't be judged for having them…

Our goal as women is not to put on an image or repress aspects of ourselves—it is to develop a healthy relationship with all parts of ourselves and through healthy relationship become whole as we reclaim every part of our unique being and self as embodied women. Then we create that space with a man who won't believe he's found the level of intimacy he has always deeply craved with a woman- the one he’s been searching for in other perhaps more surface level outlets.


Substance attracts devotion.

This has been one of our biggest secrets to success with our clients and their men and the committed relationships they attract. I've seen the dramatic effect it has on them first hand and through clients whom I teach to embody this. The impact of this in on all of your life, and your love life, is in and of itself is incredibly powerful.


You are always loved,

- Gio

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Becoming Irresistible Women Isn't About Getting it "right" or Being Perfect...

It is about being aware of the quality of the love we truly offer, truly being open to seeing how it is we show up with men, day to day… and if we give real high quality love, vs low quality, love.

Low quality love tends to use men, instead of truly love them. When we hide behind our fears and baggage, when we leave stuff unresolved, when we communicate aggressively or play games—we are playing at love, we are playing at relationships—and not truly engaging from vulnerability, intimacy and love. Love is humble, love is self-loving, love SEES the other human being… sees the soul. Love sees our own soul as well—sees when a man is just not capable of giving us what we desire, and respects that and moves on.

Soulmates see each other's souls.

Remember that the goal isn't a "relationship", the goal is 2 souls really knowing each other and choosing each other and creating a life that is much better together, than alone.

Big difference.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Being parented well—is being prepared well for life and in an ideal world we all would have been raised not just in a protective environment, but in one where our emotional world was nurtured and we came out of it whole inside—as well as one where we were prepared…

To be parented is to be prepared for life—to have been taught about men, relationships, femininity… instead of being thrown to life left to figure it out on our own (leading to so much loss, grief and heartbreak.)

Prepared to know how to navigate life...

To navigate finances

To navigate friendships

to navigate love, attraction, femininity and men.

To know when to set boundaries and when to move on, to know when to protect ourselves and when to avoid painful losses that happened because we made mistakes...

However acting imperfectly is part of being a growing soul. Making mistakes and holding opposites within you—both a wounded little girl and a spirit and being of great light… coexisting in either an internal world of self shame or in a world inside that every day is gaining ground in becoming more loving to herself.

Forgives. Forgiveness. Forgiveness...

→ Forgiving yourself for not having known better. Or for having known better and still having done it anyway because you needed for so much inside or you felt out of control or your emotions took control.

And empowerment, empowerment, empowerment—(learning now what you need to do to figure this out so you can have your dream of love and a fulfilling life.)

And a recommitment to Parent yourself which means to empower yourself, to mentor yourself, to get the support you need, to have your back and to keep learning—while always making room for all of the messy, imperfect mistakes you are still going to make.

I want you to share with us 3 things you forgive yourself for (or want to)... mistakes you made where you were far from perfect.

Comment below—what do you (hand over your heart) forgive yourself for? Name 3 things that caused losses for your life, that you mourn, grieve, regret.

You are always loved,

- Gio

I AM A GROWING SOUL

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"He Has to Have the Balls to Come Over Here and Talk to Me!"

I get this from my clients all of the time. In fact I used to say this too. That's a woman's desire for a man's masculinity, his initiative taking and overcoming → you aren’t wrong for wanting this from men.

However here is where it is off in us ladies—and it’s easy to turn around:

A man won't approach a woman who isn't open, especially nowadays with so many important conversations around consent.

A woman who seems like she isn’t open can come off as shut down or as  a masculine energy woman (or at least in that moment.)

What do I mean by an open woman?

Well, just like you as a woman have a radar for masculine energy, so does a man for feminine energy.

If a woman isn't approachable, warm, open, inviting it signals to him at a primal level that you aren't up for being approached or even more so that a woman isn’t in her Feminine. Women in their masculine energy with men feel like they could become emasculating woman in relationship and could also constantly be in competition with him, so possibly derail his purpose/mission as a man.

So an example:

He looks at you across the room…

Do you pretend not to see him?

Or do you make warm eye contact and smile back (open).

As a woman you want strong boundaries, you want to filter men out that aren’t a fit for you and by no means accept anything that is disrespectful, but you also need to make sure your energy is undefended, unguarded, open, approachable, warm→ Use your b!t$h shield only when truly needed.

B!t$h Shield = Masculinity.

Your heart is your Feminine core, show it to them men you want to approach you.

Your heart calls to his.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Photo Credit: blackandwhitephotography.club

Photo Credit: blackandwhitephotography.club

Date Like a Feminine Queen and it All Comes To You

"Gio I just got off the third call with him today, he is in Switzerland in a business meeting. Gio every time he used to go on business trips I would maybe receive an email from him when he arrived (and I would be texting him, following up with him and feeling very anxious) and now he checks in with me every day, calls several times a day, often talking for over an hour and a half! It almost feels like he never even left, like he is right here by my side.

So many things were going wrong Gio and now the change is tremendous! Now I have finally learned to say no, to have boundaries and to feel magnetic from my heart!

I never chase him, and he always calls me without fail, he always searches me out, he always comes to ME. I speak my mind and he loves me more for it!!! Gio the funniest thing… my ex husband of 4 years is now trying to get back with me TOO!!! I feel like everyone in my life sees the change and my energy becomes so magnetic they all want a piece of it! I told him after 10 years it was way too late, but he is still trying?!!!

“It is amazing Gio, my boyfriend said to me a week ago that he was more in love than ever, that he can't get enough of me. He said to me that I have become a piece of him, of his soul. It is like we have found our rhythm for the first time. He told me that he has found happiness for the first time in his entire life. Gio are the ultimate master heart healer—I don't know how you did it, but you are truly the best relationship expert in the world!"  

S. E. 42 London

An Embodied Queen is a woman whose natural state (the way of being most natural to her) is magnetism, radiance and brilliance. Everything comes to her.


You are always loved,


- Gio

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Your Degree of Difficulty as a Woman

So often in life when we have feelings for a man who has shown us not to have the same feelings for us—and we "stay" there (maybe for years)... The real problem here is not unrequited love, it is powerlessness.

We don't believe we have options, we are wanted, truly desired and powerful enough to create what we want in life—so we bank all of our worth and happiness on another human being—and this is what is known as neediness.

We live year after year, in a state of internal powerlessness otherwise knowns as the Low Value Woman.

Women who feel internally powerless (without true worth) have to play a lot of games to create what I call "false tension"

This game playing distracts from the fact that after a while she won't be able to hide her low sense of self worth—it will come out in reactivity, drama, controlling and obsessive "crushing" on the man.

So women get really hung up on "dating rules" should I say this? or not say that?" When the truth is—if they had powerful self-value—sure dating guidelines and boundaries would be helpful, but not determinant.

All the qualities a man wants would be there, instinctually coming out from her inner radiance, feminine power and authenticity.

This is when you play by all of the dating rules and then you see quality man after quality men crazy and head over heels for a woman who seems to break all of the rules...

A high Value woman:

She wouldn't walk on eggshells, she would fearlessly express herself.

She wouldn't keep being attracted to a man who isn't attracted to her.

She wouldn't be waiting for his approval or validation—she is giving it to herself.

She would be willing to walk away because she knows she is desirable to many other men.

And being desirable to many other men is SOMETHING YOU CULTIVATE in your life, and no it isn't easy to do on your own... (and in my upcoming institute I will show you exactly how, step by step.) So a woman who shows up High Value—well you will see a man throw out the rule book for this woman.... So all of the energy that you are putting on obsessing about this guy—watching what you say or don’t say, all of the hours spent thinking about him You need to now focus on building powerful self value, desirability and "degree of difficulty." Men feel your energy—you can't hide. A woman who is self abandoning won't hide for long behind game playing—a man will pick up on it and move on.You have to do the work you know you need to do. This is what I teach my clients and who embody this and see outrageous results in their love lives and this is what I want to teach you. Join us early next year for the Launch of my Embodied Feminine Woman Institute, where a group of women will boldly walk next to you as you transform into the High Value Woman you know you are.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Your degree of difficulty as a woman = I am a woman with options, therefore I do not latch on to a guy hopelessly in love before he has proven to be the right man for me. This means I lean back in my worth and keep receiving from men until the right man wins me over.

Photo Credit: toneitup.com

Photo Credit: toneitup.com

The Feminine Art of Receiving

Quality men are deeply attracted to women who know how to receive well from them and reward them with feminine appreciation—it is totally safe to receive from a good man. Remember that Goddess!

"I want a woman that receives from me," said a male friend to me recently. This is what men tell me all of the time.

Giving is masculine, receiving is Feminine. When we are in our masculine energy as women we can get stuck in the "giving pit" where we are the ones giving to a man through the masculine. We put his needs first, above ours, you try hard to show up as the perfect, trophy, girlfriend material so he will be convinced you are the "one", we walk on eggshells, do things for him we know a girlfriend would before he has claimed us as one... this is called the giving pit. We are giving to HIM instead of receiving and responding to him.

Men deeply crave for Feminine energy in women—and for a woman who knows how to receive HIM. To receive him as a man, receive his masculine energy and his gifts. A large majority of women nowadays take on masculine energy and ARE CLOSED off to receiving from men and they aren't aware of it (and this is often due to self-'worth issues, fear, insecurities and not understanding how to receive from men).

This has men lose interest, close off and pull away—as they go elsewhere to find receptive, Feminine energy. Think of a woman's body… her body receives a man's into hers.

Masculine energy needs Feminine receiving energy to feel loved and seen as a Man.

A man can feel right away if a woman is open and receptive and in her Feminine energy—or if she is guarded, masculine and going to compete with him. Men share how they pick this up from women simply by seeing them across the room.

Being open to a man, receptive, allowing—is Feminine energy.

A man needs to know that a woman will receive what he has to offer her.

In our upcoming Embodied Woman Institute—I will teach you to master the Art of receiving From Men, and you will see how drastically this changes how men act and give to you… and how they step up all around you as they feel magnetically drawn to  you.

I have female clients tell me, "I didn't even ask and he jumped to figure out what I needed."

Feminine receptivity has the power to pull on his heart as a Man like nothing else.

Your Feminine receiving energy is the Key to effortlessly attracting the love, devotion and commitment you desire from a quality Man.

Men have a radar for open, allowing, receptive Feminine women—and knowing this is the key for men around you to begin drastically responding to you differently—they begin to SEE you as a Woman like never before and feel drawn to show up as Quality Men for you.

If you haven't yet going over 500 women on the waitlist—we'd love to have you!

You are always loved,


- Gio

Photocredit: @kellymaker

Photocredit: @kellymaker

Ladies, a man wants to feel that you are his escape. His escape from a world of pressure, a world of performance, image and roles…

The Masculine world.

He wants to escape into your world, the Feminine world you bring within you. The place his soul connects, is seen and his spirit recharges through amazing intimacy, sensual connection, free, deep soul friendship, attraction, fun, lightness, acceptance, etc.

If you go out on a date to relax, recharge, be known, get to know a beautiful soul and form intimate connection… the energy flows.

If you go to perform and impress, the energy is blocked, because you are making it all about you… (you being validated, being approved of, being "liked"... ."you, you, you.") When you are in this performance space, your soul is stifled. If your soul is stifled his soul will be stifled. All you'll have left then is physical chemistry or none of it—and you'll both leave emptier, instead of fuller.

Get to know him, and let the date itself give to both of you. Receive.

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Photo Credit: mykukula.tumblr.com