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A breakup. A dream relationship ends. Dream relationship because you could have sworn this was it—your soulmate..."The One..." but yet he was never quite committed, never quite yours...

You had more than high hopes, your every day was filled with excited thoughts for where this was going.

And after the breakup, as you are reeling in pain, after days of feeling lost, crying, grieving...

You realize you are reliving an exact moment that happened 2 or 4 or 6 years ago. The not quite available man, the relationship where you kept trying, kept hoping, kept waiting… to treat you in the adoring way you want to be treated, to see you as his true one and only.

But time hasn't waited for you. And you realize the same pattern has happened… and the world's heaviness feels like it is crushing you along with all of your dreams of having long lasting, passionate, truly committed love.

A new client of mine going through this one just this week.

How long will you continue to repeat patterns, until you realize that maybe you need to really course correct, get a handle on this, stop being passive, stop hoping… until you realize there is some deep work that needs to happen? How long will you continue to waste precious days, precious years—that could be filled with the right fit—because you are waiting and waiting, hoping and hoping...that potential turns into something real.

When we as women lock down on one choice of a man, before we've truly seen if he is a fit for YOU, if he is available, if he really is going in the same direction as your dreams—when we lock down on ONE man as the only only way (its ok if you feel he is your hands down number one choice—it's just a problem when you think he is your only choice ever)—that leads you to lose your power, your worth and your valuable, valuable time.

If you can't break this cycle get help… figure out a way, get good at this dating thing...time doesn't wait, like you do.

A high value woman learns how to create abundance and receive from men (plural)...she learns to attract high level, high quality choices—so she never has to give her power to a choice that isn't quite right. This abundance and momentum in turn often has men who were previously unavailable shift and finally fully dive in—and it also has other better men step in.

Empower yourself by learning to create choices in your life. That is what a High Value Woman does!

You are always loved,

- Gio

Photo Credit: messynessychic.com

Photo Credit: messynessychic.com

“Why Chasing a Man Will Not Get You Cherished As a Woman”

Control, control, control—that is why we chase a man. We don't know how to attract the love we want and so we have to find ways to force it, control it, make it happen, and force a man to like us, commit to us and be with us.

We stalk him on social media.

Text him just to say hi.

We put on an image, we try to be sweet, nice and do things for him.

We aggressively try to be nice if you know what I mean—trying hard to impress him, convince him and win him over.

All of those are the exact opposite of feminine energy whose foundation is emotional freedom. You aren't free—therefore he pushes away from the prison you are in of control.

And we control because we are disconnected from our Feminine power and because inside we allow fear and desperation to be the only means we USE to get love. It's unattractive—and no woman in her masculine energy is going to attract the sort of masculine man she wants.

That's when men pull away, ghost us, make convenient excuses like saying "he really wants to see you but he just had a family emergency or he has been super busy lately." Or maybe he does see you for coffee, or invites you to hang, or may even till take you to dinner one last time… but its clear he's no longer excited or making an effort and you somehow feel you've been put in the booty call or friend zone.

Masculine men are not attracted to Masculine energy in women. Men don't like to be controlled, chased, pursued...

How attracted would you be to a guy who takes 2 and a half hours to do his hair, nails and makeup before seeing you, who expects you to send him flowers and chocolates, and wants you to make all the plans and be the man?

No problem there with anyone doing it, I am saying that if you are the Feminine energy—you will be attracted to masculine energy (and this goes beyond gender).

Feminine energy, the real feminine energy, not the outer fake feminine energy a lot of people are teaching nowadays, triggers intense attraction in men.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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When it Comes to Dating, Love and Commitment, Did You Know There Are 5 Types of Men

And knowing how to differentiate between them can mean night and day in saving you precious years of your life—so you can make room for the right men in your life?

It's vital to understand what type of man you are with and where he is at in life and why certain men will make you feel in certain ways—and to know if you are truly compatible with this man or not.

After all we have a lot of clients who want to honor their family reproductive years and not waste time on the wrong partner.

A man that isn't aligned to you is a man you will never quite feel like a woman with, and will not be able to give you what you want. But once you find a man that is—then everything begins to work and flow, there is ease and peace, fulfillment and happiness...

You are always loved,


- Gio

Master Class: 5 Types Of Men—Taught at the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute.

Photo Credit: pierroshoes.com

Photo Credit: pierroshoes.com

Being parented well—is being prepared well for life and in an ideal world we all would have been raised not just in a protective environment, but in one where our emotional world was nurtured and we came out of it whole inside—as well as one where we were prepared…

To be parented is to be prepared for life—to have been taught about men, relationships, femininity… instead of being thrown to life left to figure it out on our own (leading to so much loss, grief and heartbreak.)

Prepared to know how to navigate life...

To navigate finances

To navigate friendships

to navigate love, attraction, femininity and men.

To know when to set boundaries and when to move on, to know when to protect ourselves and when to avoid painful losses that happened because we made mistakes...

However acting imperfectly is part of being a growing soul. Making mistakes and holding opposites within you—both a wounded little girl and a spirit and being of great light… coexisting in either an internal world of self shame or in a world inside that every day is gaining ground in becoming more loving to herself.

Forgives. Forgiveness. Forgiveness...

→ Forgiving yourself for not having known better. Or for having known better and still having done it anyway because you needed for so much inside or you felt out of control or your emotions took control.

And empowerment, empowerment, empowerment—(learning now what you need to do to figure this out so you can have your dream of love and a fulfilling life.)

And a recommitment to Parent yourself which means to empower yourself, to mentor yourself, to get the support you need, to have your back and to keep learning—while always making room for all of the messy, imperfect mistakes you are still going to make.

I want you to share with us 3 things you forgive yourself for (or want to)... mistakes you made where you were far from perfect.

Comment below—what do you (hand over your heart) forgive yourself for? Name 3 things that caused losses for your life, that you mourn, grieve, regret.

You are always loved,

- Gio

I AM A GROWING SOUL

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Addiction is one of the easiest ways to get out of balance… and we can get addicted to anything, anytime.

When we are addicted, our focus goes on to one thing as the sole place we get most of our needs met:

Social Media Obsession (being on all day)

A man (Pining and obsessing about him all the time)

An infatuation (I can't live without him even though I just met him)

A relationship (I have no identity except through him)

Being a mother (My entire identity is my children)

Work (My whole life is my company or my job)

And that focus is taken OFF everything else.

And because we have a lot of needs, if our focus is on one thing, we either expect that one thing (or one man) to meet all of our needs, OR we neglect our needs and we become self-neglected...

Our health goes out the window—and we become tired, fatigued, broken down, irritable, unhappy, nervous wrecks… and we slowly begins to burnout.

Anytime we are burning more than we are putting in—we go into debt… and debt is NEEDINESS. We start to feed off of everyone around us, the man we are dating more than we should, we take, we drain, we show up irritable, self centered, and off centered.

And when we are in neediness ladies, we give more than we take and that breaks down relationships, love, intimacy and attraction...

Who is attracted to someone who is always needing validation, approval, etc.?

So Balance is the recognition that addiction can happen any time… and as soon as we are out of balance we become needy and EVERY AREA OF OUR LIFE begins to go into chaos, neglect, burnout, breakup, etc.

Balance is a key word for me in 2019… as I live a lifestyle where I prioritize self care, health, wellbeing, balance, needs met, rest, service, work, creativity, and all the other needs I have as a woman.

High Value Women Prioritize Balance

What areas in your life need your self care and attention to bring you back to fullness, health and balance?

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Toxic Men, Players, Narcissists...

Hi beauties,

From a healing perspective,  I don't believe in labeling anyone—and I advocate personal responsibility over pointing the finger—(and I do believe we are throwing labels such as “narcissist” around nowadays as if they are nothing---> however part of being a High Value Woman is being CLEAR on when to walk away and QUICKLY IDENTIFYING red flags…

Knowing how to separate a quality man from a man that needs no more of your time...

If your relationship is painful, your heart keeps being broken over and over, you are disrespected, manipulated, used and mistreated… or you keep attracting men who are showing red flags...

Although all men (and women) will have some baggage, a large percentage of men are just responding to how we show up—and they treat us as a soulmate, a queen or a buddy or booty call depending on how we show up—they are the best mirrors… some men are dangerous, highly toxic, abusive and very dysfunctional… or simply out to get what they want without giving anything much in return….and definitely not worth one ounce of your time beautiful!

When you get good at identifying good, available, quality men—you will be able to know and feel peaceful about walking away into thousands of other options of men from a man who doesn’t deserve any more of your energy.

We love you and want the best for you.

You are always loved,

- Gio

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